Matthew 18:15-17 (NKJV) 15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.
This is how we are taught do deal with a sinful brother or sister in Christ. The one who has been sinned against is the one to approach his or her brother or sister who has offended him or her and not the other way around. If you have been sinned against, you are not to wait around till your brother or sister who has sinned against you to come to you and apologize. You are to go to him or her. If there is a problem between believers, it should be resolved in a friendly, peaceful, loving and quite manner. If it cannot be worked out among themselves, then they ought to take the matter to a group of two or three other believers. If the group are unable to help the two individuals resolve the problem, that is if the offender still won’t confess and apologize, then the last resort is to take the problem to the church as the final authority. This re-enforces what we learn in 1 Corinthians 6:1-8, a Christian is not to take another believer to a court of law. If the local assembly in the church is unable to help the offender to admit his or her sin and apologize, then he or she is to be temporarily barred from the privileges of the church until he or she repents. This may seem harsh, and the offender may simply leave the church and go to another church. But his or her heart will still be the same, and he or she will still carry that burden of sin with him or her. This seemingly harsh treatment is necessary to help the offender realize that he or she has sinned, and to bring him or her to repentance so that he or she can get right with God.
God Bless and have a great day in God’s Word.